Price to Pay
A few of my friends are single, by choice.
Some still remain hopeful that there is someone out there also on the lookout for them too & if it (courtship/ romance/ matrimony) happens, it will happen. Some on the other hand, have reached a point where they're so very comfortable in their singlehood that to let someone into their lives, he had better be worth their relinquishing their freedom.
Another male friend blames this on the emancipation of women, how we are now working and earning and some of us are probably better than men at their job, by at least a mile. How would any man dare come forward and court such women? And due to this independence, we women actually may not need a man.
My take? I still do want a companion. Although at this very moment it is very much 50-50. I could probably do without too. However both S and I does not seem to find the urgency to marry yet. Not good because it may fizzle off & be forgotten in the sands of time.
Being single is rather fun and pleasing. Having my own schedule, doing my own thing, planning my own activities, and pretty much do whatever I like on the drop of a hat (or not, and plan meticulously). Yes, I do get harried because there is only one Me to do 50 things that needed doing.. and there is literally no partner to drop the children off to.. or share the pick up/ drop off/ tuition runs.. or take them out for excursions/ a walk in the park.. and oversee their homework.. and be there for various school events.. yet all these are quite manageable. I have learnt to do them singlehandedly, like many women out there who sucks it in and keep going. Because things needed to be done. Because our little ones look up to us for shelter, love, comfort, strength, faith, grace (and probably 10 other things). Because we can (I suppose).
So the man who really wants to be present in my (our) life need to be all that too, in a way. Or at least someone strong enough to weather my worst storms. How does anyone do this? I feel quite vulnerable even thinking about it. (And I am still figuring out this meaning & concept of love and the expression of it, as we speak!). Oh God, how do I even begin to do this?
Some still remain hopeful that there is someone out there also on the lookout for them too & if it (courtship/ romance/ matrimony) happens, it will happen. Some on the other hand, have reached a point where they're so very comfortable in their singlehood that to let someone into their lives, he had better be worth their relinquishing their freedom.
Another male friend blames this on the emancipation of women, how we are now working and earning and some of us are probably better than men at their job, by at least a mile. How would any man dare come forward and court such women? And due to this independence, we women actually may not need a man.
My take? I still do want a companion. Although at this very moment it is very much 50-50. I could probably do without too. However both S and I does not seem to find the urgency to marry yet. Not good because it may fizzle off & be forgotten in the sands of time.
Being single is rather fun and pleasing. Having my own schedule, doing my own thing, planning my own activities, and pretty much do whatever I like on the drop of a hat (or not, and plan meticulously). Yes, I do get harried because there is only one Me to do 50 things that needed doing.. and there is literally no partner to drop the children off to.. or share the pick up/ drop off/ tuition runs.. or take them out for excursions/ a walk in the park.. and oversee their homework.. and be there for various school events.. yet all these are quite manageable. I have learnt to do them singlehandedly, like many women out there who sucks it in and keep going. Because things needed to be done. Because our little ones look up to us for shelter, love, comfort, strength, faith, grace (and probably 10 other things). Because we can (I suppose).
So the man who really wants to be present in my (our) life need to be all that too, in a way. Or at least someone strong enough to weather my worst storms. How does anyone do this? I feel quite vulnerable even thinking about it. (And I am still figuring out this meaning & concept of love and the expression of it, as we speak!). Oh God, how do I even begin to do this?
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