Outlet

A particular friend of mine has been wanting (itching) to join this particular group. On the outset this group appeared to be hip & happening, but in fact we are the ones that do the work for events in our alumni group (in fact, some of us are both the brains and brawns of some events).

One particular night she happened to join a dinner with this "hip" group. A day after the dinner & for reasons known only to him, another member added her in the whatsapp group (because we have all been assigned as "Admin"). 

The tricky thing is: she is also in another personal whatsapp group with me & a few others, that we created long ago to help us cope with the challenges of being single parents. 

To simplify this gossip-laced entry, I will refer to the respective groups as "WOH Group" [WOH = Working, but Outwardly Hip] and  "SM Group" [SM = Single Moms].

What has happened now is: she has updated more stuff in WOH rather than SM. Maybe SM is too small for her perhaps? Why am I bothered? I don't know but I don't feel comfortable. Why? Maybe because now I see her as an attention seeker (I hope she is not really). Anyway she is on my watch-out list and I fear that one day we may just drift off as she seeks better, more influential friends. I hope she doesn't, but in case she does I will know how to recover. (Why am I always like this?)

I have to keep reminding myself that she is in the WOH group, as the dynamics is rather different from the SM group which she seems to have ignored. So maybe my approach now is to compartmentalise things and not chat in the WOH group, as it contains a lot of planning stuff that I no longer want to get involved in. All's good. Let's focus on MY OWN LIFE.