Sunday, February 25, 2024

Irretrievably Broken Down Relationship and not Allowed to Leave

Excerpts:

"He married in 1963 but said his relationship had broken down in 1984."

"“The institution of marriage is still considered to be a pious, spiritual, and invaluable emotional life-net between the husband and the wife in Indian society,” said the court’s judgement."

21 years is an awful long time to be trapped inside a loveless marriage. 

They were not allowed to leave the marriage, because this is a holy institution (says the judge).

Based on the facts both parties remained loyal to the other, perhaps (and I speculate) because society demands it & divorce is simply taboo and unheard of.

I wonder if the judges had their hands tied too? Precedents, and traditions. Those together makes a potent combination. And the poor souls have to contend with matrimony till the end. What a way to live.

Why not let them divorce and be at peace with it? They would be better off I believe, and move on to bigger and wonderfuler things. Their children deserves to have happy parents, and the parents deserved having separate lives unshackled by the heavy chains of 'tradition' and 'social expectations'. 

If divorce had been taboo here in Malaysia, we may be in a lot of trouble.

Many of us got out because the law protected us and allowed divorce. Why stay married when there is abuse, physical and emotional? Why stay in a marriage when there is neglect? Why stay and suffer in pain and silence? Why be in an imbalanced relationship where we women do not get protection and expected do everything for the man? The look of the subservient woman who serves her man to death is no longer cool. Many of us are as (if not more) educated than our man. Many earn and work as hard  as (if not more than) men. Can we not expect this minimum protection: against abuse, infidelity, unfair treatment and/ or careless caretaking? 

Now back to the guy in India. He appeared to be a good man. Does his duties. Takes care of his wife and children. However the fire had died.

If I were the judge I would probably award them an all paid re-honeymoon trip, and some sessions with the marriage counselor to spice things up. A lifetime is too long to be unhappy. 

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