Signs around me (that I choose to ignore)

Pak Man (or Pak Mat, one or the other..) has gotten an approval to marry his 4th wife, as heard via the hot fm airwaves today. I can choose to freak out at this piece of news, like what I normally do (and let hubby bear the brunt of my projections of insecurity) or I can choose to remain calm. I chose the latter this time.

So, what has a lorry driver (who's about to marry the 4th women he loves) got to do with me? Nothing at all and it should remain that way. The very idea of marrying more than one person (and giving your love to more than one woman) is foreign to me. Even if the religion allows it, should a person go ahead and claim the quota as of right?

My personal view is that I can't continue to love a husband who is in love with somebody else. I might change this view at a later date, but I also might not. Incidentally, yesterday we had a class discussion on the topic of "Love and Marriage" and one of the female students remarked that it's just crazy to have many women to one man. In certain societies (I've been told), it's acceptable for a woman to have more than one husband!

Maybe a time will come when women outnumber men five or six-fold and then, marrying more than one woman will be justified. In the meantime, we should make it a law for men to declare their marital status up-front. This is to avoid the quota-pursuers from making a poor unsuspecting woman fall in love with him and thereafter asking her to make a choice to be the 2nd (or 3rd or 4th) wife.