Post-Mortem

This post-mortem is done for me to look back and learn from my experience with the divorce:

1- POSITIVE POINTS

• it was a reasonably smooth process
• both decided to act in the children's best interest
• we have forgiven and moved on (more or less)

2- NEGATIVE POINTS (SELF-IMPROVEMENT AREAS)

• to quote Cameron Diaz' character in The Other Woman: line your ducks in a row! (I went the other disorganised way)
• maybe I should have been a gracious loser and not sent ex-hubby many angry messages (mea culpa- no further explanations required)
• still don't have a specific answer from ex-hubby on why it happened & why he chose her over me.. but to move forward I've put it down to bad judgement & the giddy feeling of luuurrrvee

3- MOVING FORWARD

• prioritise the children before personal battles/ issues
• plan a wonderful life together with the children

That's it really. What I have learnt is the oft-repeated, cliche, corny-sounding phrase that "time heals" is actually very true. Almost one year on, time has healed a great deal.