Acceptance
To achieve mental health & to move forward, one must accept the situation... embrace the pain/ grief/ despair... and move forward... not easy to do but totally necessary.
Had gone for a movie on Friday nite with No. 3, titled "Somewhere Only We Know" (directed by Xu Jinglei).
One particular character suffered manic depression because she was primarily in denial that her husband had left her for a younger woman (where have I heard this before..???). Continuously she had gone to mediums to attract him back, so she burnt paper offerings and did different types of prayers as suggested by the medium... and he never did come back... probably never will... because that is life and life sucks.
Her son made a wry remark to cheer her up- why don't you find a boyfriend? I wish my kids are as witty... but then again, it is too soon... to early... and mentally I'm probably not ready.
Am I a hypocrite then? Am I being selfish? Judgmental?
There was a quote in the movie... "love happens when it happens; it doesn't wait for the situation to be perfect for people to fall in love"... (what is the "perfect" situation anyways...???).
The main character was jilted at the altar because the fiancee met someone else & felt that it is not fair to continue with the wedding when he no longer loves her.
He had looked for her and met her in Prague (where she had left to nurse her wounds)... said that he still cares and asked her to call whenever she needs him... (there's also the dying wish of her grandmother that he looks after her because he's the remaining 'family' that she has).
Another worthwhile quote from the movie: "We're no longer the same persons anymore. The experience has changed us. There is no more love between us (but) we used to love each other once. We shared a gift. The gift that we'll always treasure because it happened."
This is my state of mind with Mr. Ex. The tinge of sadness still appears once in a while, but essentially we (I) have moved on. Life is different now. I am happier. I hope he is too.
Had gone for a movie on Friday nite with No. 3, titled "Somewhere Only We Know" (directed by Xu Jinglei).
One particular character suffered manic depression because she was primarily in denial that her husband had left her for a younger woman (where have I heard this before..???). Continuously she had gone to mediums to attract him back, so she burnt paper offerings and did different types of prayers as suggested by the medium... and he never did come back... probably never will... because that is life and life sucks.
Her son made a wry remark to cheer her up- why don't you find a boyfriend? I wish my kids are as witty... but then again, it is too soon... to early... and mentally I'm probably not ready.
Am I a hypocrite then? Am I being selfish? Judgmental?
There was a quote in the movie... "love happens when it happens; it doesn't wait for the situation to be perfect for people to fall in love"... (what is the "perfect" situation anyways...???).
The main character was jilted at the altar because the fiancee met someone else & felt that it is not fair to continue with the wedding when he no longer loves her.
He had looked for her and met her in Prague (where she had left to nurse her wounds)... said that he still cares and asked her to call whenever she needs him... (there's also the dying wish of her grandmother that he looks after her because he's the remaining 'family' that she has).
Another worthwhile quote from the movie: "We're no longer the same persons anymore. The experience has changed us. There is no more love between us (but) we used to love each other once. We shared a gift. The gift that we'll always treasure because it happened."
This is my state of mind with Mr. Ex. The tinge of sadness still appears once in a while, but essentially we (I) have moved on. Life is different now. I am happier. I hope he is too.
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