Nourishing the Soul

Dinner with really close friends is simply the most fantastic affair. Last night we did just that. Met up at one friend's house, she cooked some simple meals & ordered one special dish. We brought desserts and one friend even prepared a mini game with prizes. The children played together- thankfully they were in similar age groups, while the mommies chatted away.

I hope to be able to do this when I am married. One of the topics we discussed around the proverbial fireplace was: How does one maintain one's identity once married? We had this issue in the previous marriage. Of giving too much of ourselves for our man & losing our identity in the process.

One of the solution was to discuss & be clear on the expectations before marriage. This I would have to do with S soon. Granted he is very accommodating & the most agreeable person on planet earth, so I am wary not to take advantage of that. On the same note, I have to remember and maintain my identity, that which he fell in love with.

It is a scary prospect: marriage. Are we ready (Will we ever be?). Will we be compatible (Well, we're not completely compatible, but we have agreed to look at our similarities rather than differences). Will I be able to accept all his habits (Will he be able to accept mine?). Will we be happy (I hope so!). After ALL that, will we stay together for the right reasons?

We left after a wonderful sharing session. We summarised the key takeaways: to be ourselves & find happiness even if we do not have a husband; to be gorgeous always in our own way; that a spouse should be our intellectual match; to seek the Grace of Allah in whatever we do.