Why not tell the truth?

Sometimes I wish that men, especially after 40, will stop thinking with their dicks.

OF COURSE you will eventually get bored of your wife after being together for so long.

(You think she is not equally, if not more bored to death with you???)

OF COURSE there are younger fresher looking girls out there. At the office, at the gold courses, at the restaurants, literally where ever you go.

(You think you wife doesn't get tempted too??? You think your wife wasn't young once???)

OF COURSE your wife is stubborn & does not listen to you & is too busy taking care of the children or doing her work or is always sloppily dressed at home.

(Did you ever help her with housework, or childcare, or cooking, or cleaning, or her work??? Did you ever give a reason, or the chance to dress up and look good??? And the money she earns from work, is she not helping you too with household expenses???)

Well this last argument goes to the men, because Muslim men may marry up to 4 with a proviso; emphasis is mine

From the Quran, Surah An-Nisa: 3

If you fear that you might not treat the orphans justly, then marry the women that seem good to you: two, or three, or four.1 If you fear that you will not be able to treat them justly, then marry (only) one,2 or marry from among those whom your right hands possess.3 This will make it more likely that you will avoid injustice.

— Tafheem-ul-Quran - Abul Ala Maududi

So, what is the point of hiding and cheating and being a jerk?

Why not marry in Malaysia properly, if it is a right & you have strong and full belief that you will be fair to all your wives? Your wife will find out eventually. She has been honest and faithful, and took care of her dignity. They should not be lied to. Ever.

And to the other women, stop hurting your own kind. 

There are many other men to choose from, please do some homework & try again.

We stand stronger together, not against each other.

Don't ever sell yourselves short, and don't grab other people's husbands either. The woman on the other side (and his children, if any) are REAL persons with feelings. She is/ They are not collateral damage. Damn the husbands who do not obey the oath they made to Allah during marriage. How dare you take on another bloody wife when you cannot take care of the loyal one you already have. Shame on you.