Should you be Friends with your Ex?
NO.
After the break-up/divorce, you have turned into different people. The experience would likely change you so much that you either remain bitter and angry or forgive and move on. Either way, there may still be simmering issues unseen by the naked eye and the moment someone brings something up, it is likely to cause an explosion. Any 'communication' you may have with each other is akin to a mine-field, you get blown up one way or the other. Especially if the break-up involves a third party/ due to an affair, NEVER mention the third party because your ex still has the hots for him/her, thinks the world of them and you will always end up being seen as envious and unreasonable.
SO- what do we do now? My responses now should be limited to either "ok" or "thanks", that's all my vocabulary with him will be. Like it or not, we still have to discuss the children's matters. The key here is probably to tolerate each others' existence and not get too caught up in what he is/ is not doing with her.
They are inconsequential people and I will not allow them to take my power away. I am in control of my destiny and I choose to be happy.
My quote: "People who have hurt you should be treated like pebbles by the roadside. You acknowledge that they exist but you don't have to give them a second look/ thought".
So there, goodbye Mr Ex and I wish you well.
After the break-up/divorce, you have turned into different people. The experience would likely change you so much that you either remain bitter and angry or forgive and move on. Either way, there may still be simmering issues unseen by the naked eye and the moment someone brings something up, it is likely to cause an explosion. Any 'communication' you may have with each other is akin to a mine-field, you get blown up one way or the other. Especially if the break-up involves a third party/ due to an affair, NEVER mention the third party because your ex still has the hots for him/her, thinks the world of them and you will always end up being seen as envious and unreasonable.
SO- what do we do now? My responses now should be limited to either "ok" or "thanks", that's all my vocabulary with him will be. Like it or not, we still have to discuss the children's matters. The key here is probably to tolerate each others' existence and not get too caught up in what he is/ is not doing with her.
They are inconsequential people and I will not allow them to take my power away. I am in control of my destiny and I choose to be happy.
My quote: "People who have hurt you should be treated like pebbles by the roadside. You acknowledge that they exist but you don't have to give them a second look/ thought".
So there, goodbye Mr Ex and I wish you well.
posted by elya at 1:31 pm
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