Boredom

A friend of a friend decided to have an affair with a single guy because she had been married for more than 20 years to the same man & is feeling bored (no more sparks). Why do people do these things anyway? If I was married to a good man & I feel bored I'd probably take up paragliding.. or go on hiking trips.. or holiday with my gal friends.. but then again that's me, the one who gets dumped for being boring & unexciting.

The basic deduction that we arrived at after the conversation is a lesson in being grateful.. for the husband/ wife/ partner who has cared for you most of his/ her life, for the children born out of that marriage/ union, and for all the little + big things.

As I approach the first year of being single, I still go back and forth analysing what went wrong.. albeit with less scrutiny. The HUGE lesson I've learnt is this: there is NOTHING that I could have done to change the inevitable, so I have accepted the situation. I have loved in the best way I could, with many3 shortcomings in his eyes but loved him I did. If all that I've done was not enough, then we were actually never meant to be with each other. Love is about feeling secure, about growing in each other's presence, about supporting each other during our down times.. at least that's my current definition. Let's continue to love, shall we? Let's love in the biggest baddest way possible. Why not? Life is too short.