Redemption

Yesterday I cooked chicken curry and the children absolutely loved it. Mr Ex would have found at least 3 mistakes with the dish despite all my efforts.. but what he thinks doesn't matter anymore. Isn't that nice?

To be free from mental abuse is completely liberating.. those who are currently living under domestic tyranny should totally try it..

At work I met a young girl.. early 30s.. raising a child on her own because her husband left home. He abused her physically and mentally.. and when her parents found out they intervened to stop further abuse.. and he retaliated by leaving home after saying 200
nasty things about her. However she suffers (I suspect) from an emotional complex, because she loves her tormentor. One year on after he went AWOL, she is still hesitant to file for divorce.

It is not easy.. being divorced.. perhaps the stigma is too strong for certain women to make a choice.. to file for divorce.. to embrace the term "divorcee" and to be a single parent..

I have met at least one more person who decided to file for divorce very late, after nearly 20 years of abuse and neglect. By neglect I mean emotional & financial neglect, and in my book no man deserves to live after doing that to his wife and children.

To these women, I do hope that they will find the strength to break the ties that are destructive.. to move forward.. and to dare be happy.

Redeeming my dignity and freedom was indescribable. This is my life and I want to live it with with someone (if ever) who truly deserves my love.