Mismatches & Common Ground

We are as different as night and day, yet he urges me to find some common points.

From what I see, these are our similarities/ workable points:
- we are both very practical & direct people
- we work very well together (on external projects unrelated to romantic relationship)
- we are comfortable being silent, when in each other's presence
- we are loyal to each other
- we are both family-oriented (close to our mums & siblings & extended families)
- we both understand the feeling of heartbreak
- we are both good drivers
- we complement each other: he grounds me with his sensibility & I provide the 'happy' element
- we love the outdoors

There are a lot more differences, but that's material for another time.

My next question: Do I want this? Do I want to make this work? Will I make him happy? Will he make me happy (I think he might, if I can understand what makes him tick).

Let's not be a people-pleaser or the martyr again my dear. You did that with Mr Ex and look at the treatment you got from him. I will be my own person now & I am no longer easy to handle.

Well the next question is: Does he want this?