Running Solo

Pretty soon (like, yesterday), I would have to figure out how to live and raise the children without any financial contribution from Mr Ex. Perhaps scale down our living area, move to a smaller place, sell the cars and buy a new one to avoid having to pay a lot in maintenance.. our expenses for food is manageable so that portion is fine. The next large expense is university costs for the older ones. The sad thing is probably they may have to delay their studies and work to pay their own way through university.

So it would seem that I would have to stay and teach at the same university while I finish my DBA. For convenience. My salary scale is reasonably good for my experience & qualifications. The uni is very close to home & I need not take too much time to commute to work. Once the DBA is done perhaps I will teach overseas.

How do I sell the house while staying in it? Once the deposit is paid I may have to find myself a rented unit, while I look for another house to purchase (perhaps never). The money will be used to put the 3 children through uni & after that the younger ones will travel to the ends of the world with me wherever I go.

Seems workable, yes? No point holding on to something that I can't afford paying. Selling is better, more dignified than losing the house to foreclosure.

As for romance and such, seriously it would have to be pushed to the back burner. One of the things that may not work out in my current state of mind & messy financials.

Mr Ex has by the end of this month to decide if he is able to pay us for maintenance. If he is unable to I would require him to surrender the Camry for sale. He can take a bicycle to work for all I care. Ruthless. This I have gotta be. He was merciless to me when dating the woman. What's with a few ultimatums from me right?