Learning to Manage

How do I become more positive?

Why must my life be about absolutes anyways?

Moral of the story is: I must love myself first before anybody else.. and (this advice is for my girls and women in general) never lend your name to a good for nothing liar.. I completely loathe him now..

Another moral of the story: the maximum number of children anyone should have is two.. no more, no matter how persuasive the man is (in his bullshit about wanting a large family).. well have more if he is a responsible income earner, treats you like a queen & is involved 200% in child-caring & child-rearing (and not just child-making).. girls, you will know this after the first child is born. If the man is a useless liar & expects you to do everything (and then some), one child is more than enough and you should go visit your gynae immediately for contraceptives advice.

AND never allow your name to be used for car/house/credit card purchases, no matter how much you think you love him.. because whatever you feel is not real & he loves at least one other (marriageable) woman besides you..

So.. I am now back to the drawing board.. my goal is to break out of all these nonsensical financial commitments.. and raise the children in the leanest way possible, without any financial aid from Mr Ex.. because I don't see how he will pay for it.. his empty promises carry no weight anymore.. so I will just wish him the best, move to another house and live within our means. That's it really. A sound financial advice in one sentence: live within your means. Let's do that and never rely on any man ever again.