If I had to do it all over again
With hindsight, many people (me included) would have made different choices in life.
Personally, I would have:
- married later (or choose to remain single)
- not have gotten into unnecessary debts (like credit cards)
- not considered involving myself with any MLM or direct selling companies (and kept the money in the bank or just buy a new car or just invest them elsewhere)
- traveled more
- written more
- be less busy
- chosen someone who loved me more than I love him (to marry)
- have less children
- been more reckless (how? do I even know how to do this.. haha)
- done an accounting degree (although strictly speaking I would suck big time at it)
However, this is like a Catch-22 situation. Without the stories that happened, I wouldn't have gained hindsight anyways. Or if I had chosen a different path, it will give me a different set of hindsight(s) altogether.. on the basis of reasonable probability of course.
The POINT that I want to make here is.. whatever happened in my life up to this point was a sequence of events and choices and consequences that occur like a ripple (if you like). There is no point really reminiscing (or romanticising/ dwelling) too much on these events, for they have already happened. AND THEY NEEDED TO HAPPEN IN THE EXACT SAME WAY BECAUSE I NEEDED TO LEARN SOMETHING FROM THEM.
The other point is: I was given this life. It is a process I have to go through and I am not sinfully rich now, perhaps because I have not unlocked that part yet (maybe I will never unlock it, who knows). Monetary rewards is not everything. I am endlessly blessed with good health, beautiful wonderful children, a source of income, many wonderful friends, opportunities to pursue what I like to do, I am able to earn an income & put food on the table, I get to make the choices many women of the world could not make. So there. I AM BLESSED.
Regret, or even waxing lyrical about what could have been, is not terribly useful. It sets me back many steps.. and worst still, in some cases certain people may spiral into depression.
What is important is to be GRATEFUL. (The attitude of gratitude, this is from the self-help books).
For today I am yet again given a chance to breathe and step on God's green earth.. yet again I am given the chance to make myself better, be there for my children, do the duties/ service that I needed to do for my employer & students and of course to my Maker. Complaints regrets backbiting gossiping.. those are not my thing.. because I have better things to do (don't we all?).
So my dear, let us move forward and tackle this thing called life head on. No fear, because all the steps that we have taken UP TO THIS POINT has prepared us to unlock the upcoming challenges. So Dear God, THANK YOU for everything.
Personally, I would have:
- married later (or choose to remain single)
- not have gotten into unnecessary debts (like credit cards)
- not considered involving myself with any MLM or direct selling companies (and kept the money in the bank or just buy a new car or just invest them elsewhere)
- traveled more
- written more
- be less busy
- chosen someone who loved me more than I love him (to marry)
- have less children
- been more reckless (how? do I even know how to do this.. haha)
- done an accounting degree (although strictly speaking I would suck big time at it)
However, this is like a Catch-22 situation. Without the stories that happened, I wouldn't have gained hindsight anyways. Or if I had chosen a different path, it will give me a different set of hindsight(s) altogether.. on the basis of reasonable probability of course.
The POINT that I want to make here is.. whatever happened in my life up to this point was a sequence of events and choices and consequences that occur like a ripple (if you like). There is no point really reminiscing (or romanticising/ dwelling) too much on these events, for they have already happened. AND THEY NEEDED TO HAPPEN IN THE EXACT SAME WAY BECAUSE I NEEDED TO LEARN SOMETHING FROM THEM.
The other point is: I was given this life. It is a process I have to go through and I am not sinfully rich now, perhaps because I have not unlocked that part yet (maybe I will never unlock it, who knows). Monetary rewards is not everything. I am endlessly blessed with good health, beautiful wonderful children, a source of income, many wonderful friends, opportunities to pursue what I like to do, I am able to earn an income & put food on the table, I get to make the choices many women of the world could not make. So there. I AM BLESSED.
Regret, or even waxing lyrical about what could have been, is not terribly useful. It sets me back many steps.. and worst still, in some cases certain people may spiral into depression.
What is important is to be GRATEFUL. (The attitude of gratitude, this is from the self-help books).
For today I am yet again given a chance to breathe and step on God's green earth.. yet again I am given the chance to make myself better, be there for my children, do the duties/ service that I needed to do for my employer & students and of course to my Maker. Complaints regrets backbiting gossiping.. those are not my thing.. because I have better things to do (don't we all?).
So my dear, let us move forward and tackle this thing called life head on. No fear, because all the steps that we have taken UP TO THIS POINT has prepared us to unlock the upcoming challenges. So Dear God, THANK YOU for everything.
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