Polygamy

One of my close friends will be marrying another woman's husband on 18 October. Pretty Soon.

Will she be able to handle it?
"It" being the whole package of being wife #2.
She says that she has thought this through.
I know for a fact that she has.

Will she be happy?
I do hope so.

He will not have much time for her.
(She says it's okay because she will feel suffocated if the man/ husband is always at home).

She will not be able to post any photos of her with him.
She will be restricted in friendships/ social events if he doesn't approve.
She may not be able to talk about him openly in public forum.
Her children has a father, or would they?
Will he admit his association with her/ them when push comes to shove?
What if a few weeks/ months/ years down the road someone single and eligible proposes?
What is she gets pregnant?
What if his other wife finds out?
What if he is given an ultimatum?
Does she love him that much to go through all this?
(She says that she is ready for the full package & the long haul).

As for me, I can only watch all this happen [partially screaming inside].

However at the end of the day this is her life and she has decided.
They will weather the storm together if the promise has been made... and my honest hope is that he will have the strength and backbone to do things right by both his wives and their children.

As for me, this will not be a life I choose.

I was on the receiving end of infidelity and Mr. Ex had plans to marry her (for real).

What I felt was beyond description. I do not wish it on another woman (even the ones I hate for life), and I sure won't want to be the cause of that pain.

So, to my friend- I do wish her the best [and partially hope that they'll call it off].