The D word

Separating from a spouse is never easy, and personally it is extremely difficult to be 'classy' about it. There is a LOT of emotions to process and there are people around us who will have their own perception judgement of the whole thing. The parties concerned will be in their own heads, trying to manage; and the more of a public figure you are, the harder it becomes to have your moment of reflection/ silence. Whose divorce(s) am I referring to specifically at this moment? Wang Lee Hom's and Jason Momoa's.

My condolences to both, because they have built a family with their respective spouses, there are kids who will be affected by the split, and I pray to God that there is no "other woman" in the picture.. she may be dragged into the fray no matter how innocent she may be. Somehow I am reminded of Johnny Depp & Amber Heard's divorce and one of the Franco brothers may be called to court to testify... and also the matter of one unlikely-social-media-celebrity Dr Hanafi "belah tepi" who was confronted about an alleged affair (by his then wife) on video. 

My youngest brother is also going through divorce, or it may be more accurate to mention that he was blindsided into divorce. Wife had applied for a transfer on the pretext of taking care of her mom, and my brother received divorce papers a year later. Again, not a classy event. I will spare you the details and protect innocent souls.

Since it is super difficult to be classy/ to hold your head high in the private sphere, I would probably advice divorcees to avoid completely altercations on the social media. The internet, for one, does not forget; and secondly, please protect the children for goodness' sakes! Thirdly, maintain your class and the chances of maintaining your mental health (and long-term reputation) are probably greater. Seeing a shrink would be a good idea. There may be a lot of crying and reminiscence/ reflection and trigger episodes following a divorce (I fully subscribe to the six stages of grief). I pray that all our hearts are protected and strengthened despite this painful event.