Life by Choice @ Life by Design?
Is our life story predetermined completely... or do we still have some choice in steering our ship? Will the rifts in the universe be caused if we had made different choices.. or rather.. would somebody else's choices be affected by our own choices & outcomes?
Maybe. I suppose so. It seems like a reasonable theory. I don't know for sure, as this would involve so many permutations & lead to different conclusions. Do we let life take its course, or do we push forward towards a certain ending which we prefer?
Say, if Mr Ex and I didn't marry, what would we have done? Would we marry someone else or stay single? If I had met N in my younger days, would we bond? Would he have proposed & would he have been as successful as he is now if I were his wife? I really haven't the faintest idea.
People tend to say (about the one that got away) e.g. that I should have been his/ her partner & enjoy the success with him/ her.. but then that begs the question: with you, would he/ she be successful? What if N will end up like Mr Ex if he had married me? Would I have become a fulltime homemaker with 10 children? I really don't know.
However I do believe that the people whom we meet have been sent to us for one reason or the other. I will accept this much.
Other than that I believe that life happened in a certain way for me to learn from. Aishah came into the picture for a reason. We divorced for a reason- perhaps it was fated.. that I responded harshly & asked for divorce.. that Mr Ex was so willing to let me go.. and they didn't end up marrying each other after all that fuss.
And I had met N and S for a reason too.
How much of these events & incidents were self-determined & how much were "destined'?
Omid would have a field day dissecting these. With Abbhi. And I would just look on.
Maybe. I suppose so. It seems like a reasonable theory. I don't know for sure, as this would involve so many permutations & lead to different conclusions. Do we let life take its course, or do we push forward towards a certain ending which we prefer?
Say, if Mr Ex and I didn't marry, what would we have done? Would we marry someone else or stay single? If I had met N in my younger days, would we bond? Would he have proposed & would he have been as successful as he is now if I were his wife? I really haven't the faintest idea.
People tend to say (about the one that got away) e.g. that I should have been his/ her partner & enjoy the success with him/ her.. but then that begs the question: with you, would he/ she be successful? What if N will end up like Mr Ex if he had married me? Would I have become a fulltime homemaker with 10 children? I really don't know.
However I do believe that the people whom we meet have been sent to us for one reason or the other. I will accept this much.
Other than that I believe that life happened in a certain way for me to learn from. Aishah came into the picture for a reason. We divorced for a reason- perhaps it was fated.. that I responded harshly & asked for divorce.. that Mr Ex was so willing to let me go.. and they didn't end up marrying each other after all that fuss.
And I had met N and S for a reason too.
How much of these events & incidents were self-determined & how much were "destined'?
Omid would have a field day dissecting these. With Abbhi. And I would just look on.
posted by elya at 7:12 pm
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