Head On

Marriage.

Is it for everybody?

What about marriage to someone's husband?

May not be for everybody too, but may work for some.

One of my good friends will be marrying someone's husband pretty soon, and her reasons were these:
- she doesn't need to have him around the house ALL the time
- she is financially able & do not need high maintenance
- it is nice to have someone to talk to & share her problems (and hug on some nights)
- she is able to respect the rights of the first wife & coordinate with her their turns (fyi- the first wife  has not found out yet about them)

Another conversation with a wise friend revealed this (about relationship in general, not necessarily about marriage or sharing specifically):
- every relationship needs work, it is not for just the fun/ happy bits but for the long haul
- know what you want & don't play games (because it is tiring)
- be comfortable in your own skin & take life as it is.

Putting these 2 comments together (and my own limited experience with romantic relationships), I can probably deduce (for myself) that I need to be my own person. The person who loves me will remain the person who loves me. He will not define me. I have to pave my own path & the person has to be comfortable in my light (and me in his)... and incidentally this is why I love S to bits (and for the record, he is single).

[Somehow all 3 points are unrelated- haha].