At what point does it become not okay?

Is it infidelity if he did not fall in love with her? If it is merely physical with no emotions involved?

Is it so wrong to have some entertainment | excitement | eye candy (female caddies) while playing your favourite sport (golf)?

No wonder he had proposed that the wives come along on the trip. 

Transport & driver will be provided.

We shop & have our excursions while they play golf.

They CANNOT be persuaded to shop with us, 

they do not want to be in the way,

so that we can buy to our hearts' content.

Now I know the real reason... 

it is because there are no female caddies wearing tight white pants at Mangga Dua!!!

Is it wrong to seek some spice in your life because your wife is so damn boring?

If your wife does not prefer going out and accompanying you for leisurely activities, is it wrong to go with someone else more willing and more delectable-looking?

Isn't it okay to just look and enjoy beautiful things and people?

You respect them all, and they were merely providing a service.

Adding value, creating customer delight, enhancing the golfing experience?

I have my own views on the above.

Firstly, the "dirty old man" persona is NOT a good look.

Secondly, women are not objects to touch and be manipulated.

He has nieces and sisters. How would he feel if they choose that profession?

Thirdly, no matter how terrible your spouse is, she is your wife

who you have bloody promised to care and protect!

That's me summarising.

Believe me you don't want the full version.

After days of ranting, I am STILL not done.

I really don't know what to say to him later.

I might just cut through the chase & say

Would you please sign the divorce papers before I submit them?

I don't dabble in probabilities: Did he? Would he? Again? Ever? Maybe/ Maybe not?

I do prefer certainty.

Stepping forward, he may not be needed in my life anymore.

Come to think of it: neither will I in his life.

And it doesn't matter either way.

We live and we learn,

and hopefully become better people 💖💔

Wishing myself ALL THE BEST 

in the quest to make my heart whole again.