Heed My Warning

Many years ago before we got married (but was about to), one of his close friends told me: "Don't marry him, he's a bad guy". In front of him. Of course I laughed it off, thinking that it was an utter joke said right in front of his face.. and as usual I was too in love to see otherwise.

Truth is, he was probably right. He tried to warn me, in public. He probably didn't know how else to tell me. Unfortunately I was in too deep to even see beyond the reality.

Aiza, her story and mine were more intertwined than ever.

She was asked for her hand in marriage in 2018. We started dating in 2016.

Hubby said she got her facts mixed up. She was asked in 2018. Which I don't believe. I am leaning towards Aiza's version, because she was still a forlorn lover throughout 2019, 2020 and 2021. Her version is more consistent with her/ their behaviour. If she was dropped in 2008, she wouldn't have stuck around until 2018 for him. What for? If she did, she was completely demented or so totally in love with him and has no regard for self care for TEN years? No possible. That version is utterly ridiculous. So I am keeping it here for posterity in case I forget why we should remain divorced.

Aiza gave up waiting for him (I don't know when exactly, probably in 2021 when she got married), and he married me in 2019. She continued dating him till 2021, until she was ready to let him go.

[But what about me???]

Newsflash. Nobody thought about me. 

They were too enamored, too in love to even see me as a real living breathing person.

I was just a person who happened to chase him down, and asked him to marry me.

Never again will I be involved in this business.

The person I will marry now is myself.