I Won't be Like Aiza

Once this marriage ends, I will take care of myself and not rely on him like she did.

If he finds someone else, I will not assert myself as a lover as she did.

Our messages will steer clear from matrimonial-type messages, I am banning the use of LOVE and/ or any related emoji and we will never in hell match our raya outfit colours. NEVER.

He will not be expected to pick me up for dinners like she expected him to, while knowing in very clear terms that he was married to me.

If ever he sends me any lovey dovey message in the night before his nikah, I will screenshot it and send it to his to-be wife, so that she will know what to do. But then again I won't, however I might block him afterwards. For good. No woman deserves that fate. If a man decides to marry her, she has to be one he pays attention to, not his exes and past loves. There is no way in hell both of them could have justified this connection/ communication once he had married me. NONE. It is NOT friendship no matter how many ways they spin it.

Navigating post-romantic relationship & coming to the new normal of friendship is not easy. I can understand the time it took for both of them to return to 'friendship', BUT IT SHOULD NOT HAVE INTERFERED WITH OUR MARRIAGE AT ALL!!!!

That I had accessed his message without permission, that is immaterial. The fact that it happened could never be denied. I saw earlier (via the location app) that he was always in UM area on Sunday nights (when I return home to my children) was a FACT. That she left her things in the house uncollected until 2022 is a FACT. That they were once planning to wed each other was FACT. That she is special to him is a FACT. That they were housemates, even with his niece being there, was FACT.

I will never be okay with that, sorry.

A husband should protect me. 

I understand that Aiza doesn't have that responsibility. 

Regardless, I will not be Aiza.

For husbands all around the world: "Be her calm. Be her home. Do not be another battle she has to fight." "Her/ she" refers to your lawfully wedded wife, in case you were wondering.