An exaggeration
*This is a work of fiction from a troubled mind
This morning on FB Reels:
QUESTION: Is it possible for a couple to recover from infidelity?
ANSWER: There are 2 sides: the doer (D) and the recipient of the aftermath (R). The recipient struggles to 'accept'/ 'forgive' what happened and tries to put together pieces of the surrounding events. The doer suffers with remorse/ pain knowing that R has been hurt in the process. Both parties handle pain, but recovery lies mainly in the hand of the recipient: that is, if R can live with that knowledge and be 'okay' with it. Both D and R has to be ready for the past being dug up and discussed, towards mutual healing, however tiring it all could be.
My summary: I cannot ever live with pain of betrayal, nor will I be ok with it. I'm done. I might change my mind 10-20-30 years down the road, but as of now my answer is NO.
Last night a friend said "I do not subscribe to polygamy- why would a man want to take care of multiple women when taking care of one is such a chore already?"
Many men participants in the event agree to the statement, but I have further questions in my mind (wishing that I could say them out loud):
MY QUESTIONS:
Does that stand qualify you or other men to keep candies on the side AND JUSTIFY IT by saying that "She's not going to be a second-third-fourth wife" + "I stay loyal to my wife, my one and only."
Is emotional attachment or crush or longing necessarily better than a blatant affair OR intending to take someone as a second-third-fourth wife?
If this is the stand in many men's mind, what is their stand on emotional affairs labeled as 'just friends' + 'we have known each other for YEARS' + "there's nothing going on" + "you're just imagining things".
To me this is the most confusing thing ever. In my mind (rightly or wrongly) when a husband (or wife) pays attention and invests emotionally in another person, that husband (or wife) did not put their marriage as priority. Ergo that marriage to him (or her) was deemed unimportant, hence justifying various external relations that fulfils them emotionally but in fact they are merely time-wasters, taking away from the ACTUAL RELATIONSHIP that he/ she should have invested in in the first place!
Why did logic not prevail? Whose fault is that? Did D ever consider R's feelings at any point?
This whole thing is bloody mysterious, if you ask me 🤔
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