Hati-hati yang terguris | Hearts that are hurting

Both their behaviours have hurt us, their respective partners.

We, the affected partners, triangulated our experiences and found some similarities.

They have always messaged each other, they still keep in contact via whatsapp, calls of the other are taken in private. My hubby takes her calls outside our house; and she takes his calls privately. To the extent of getting up from the dinner table and taking his calls out of earshot.

When she took her stuff from our house (8 years since the day she ended the tenancy), she didn't ask her husband to come along. She had brought a white car home, containing a truckload of stuff originating from Kuala Lumpur. Her husband was puzzled as to (1) whose car it was that she borrowed; and (2) where the stuff came from. 

She had replied that (1) the car was my hubby's, he offered it to her (her husband knew mine, because hubby had been one of the witnesses for their marriage) and that (2) the stuff came from her ex-boyfriend's house. She had given the impression that these were TWO mutually exclusive events/ human beings, when in fact they refer to one person and one location.

What was most puzzling to both of us was this: Why didn't they marry each other when they had the chance? There was ample opportunity and time between them, for them to have done something about it. Personally I think Aiza wanted someone financially stable and hubby married me because I asked/ forced him to. I should not have done that- forcing hubby to marry me had torn the fabric of time. I had inadvertently interfered in the greatest love story ever told. 

They were/ are literally soulmates, joined at the hips. Whatever issues they needed to work out, those issues were (in my view) miniscule. Given their closeness, and connection, and level of relationship, they really belonged together and deserved each other. My husband_  is now better off financially; I had helped him discharge his bankruptcy status a few years ago. Aiza, with age, has probably mellowed down and become a more matured and reasonable person to marry. 

It would really put everyone out of misery if the two of you just get hitched. Don't tell me/ us anything. I/ we really do not want to know anything, and do not flipping care.