Sad Eyes

It is said that once one gets over hardship, the next plane of consciousness is revealed to that person. For me, scarily enough, I am able to see people's sad eyes i.e. unfulfilled dreams or domestic issues projected by the wearers' eyes. Note that I usually won't be able to identify the issue but sometimes just talking to someone will relieve us from unnecessary people and problems.

Honestly I have no way of checking, so I really can't claim absolutely that I have a gift... but so far those who I have talked to have always been the right persons... the sad eyes reveal a lot without the owner having to say a single word.

I was at the gym over the weekend with my eldest & we went for breakfast together... I was surprised to see so many sad eyes... some belong to those in a marriage, some belong to those who ate alone... but the good thing with that restaurant is that the waiters and cooks appear to be happy!

Where's your Husband?

Since the divorce, I haven't quite mastered the technique of answering this question. Below are some potential answers that I could give... depending on who's asking

(1) He's at home (his home)
(2) I don't have one (if I want to be mysterious)
(3) He is gone (with the wind)
(4) We are divorced (some may follow up with "why"? and I would answer "it was not meant to be")
(5) He is kidnapped by an alien & it refused to return him
(6) We divorced because of irreconcilable differences
(7) I asked him to leave following an affair
(8) He took off with an eye candy
(9) He's somewhere (I don't know or I don't care)
(10) Husband, what husband?

Despite still missing him, I have decided to let him go. He has made his choice. This is not a Hollywood movie where the man runs after the girl as she leaves on the night train.. nor is this a situation meriting the breach of international aviation laws when the man boards the plane without a boarding pass, just to say the words "I love you" before the girl departs.

No matter how I play it in my mind, it will never happen. He has moved on, has started dating again & already shortlisting some potential candidates. I guess I must be quite easy to forget :(

Stop being forlorn, stop whining, stop complaining, stop sending angry messages (already have stopped cold turkey!), stop reaching out to him, stop caring, stop thinking of him, stop missing him. It's not like he misses me anyway, or cares. OH WELL!!

LIFE GOES ON & I GROW STRONGER BY THE DAY. Soon I will forget the person and the love I had for him. So long Mr Ex. Goodbye- I guess I am as ready as I'll ever be for that date!!

How do you*...

1- ... get over your ex?

• Just give it time.. you'll miss him less and less as time passes
• Forgive him and move on- he's not thinking of you so why occupy your mind with thoughts of him?
• Learn to replace the love with hate... eventually you will love someone else
• Be okay, the best revenge is to be happy for yourself
• Find a happy place & do the things that you love to do, you'll forget him in time
• Talk it over with someone who is a professional, he/she can help you get through your issues

2- ... that you're okay?

• When you do not allow the anger to control you anymore
• When you're no longer bothered by what he did/what you think he's doing
• When you are able to date other people
• When you no longer think of him/ When he no longer occupies your thoughts
• When you have found yourself

3- ... move forward?

• Decide to be happy
• Let go of the baggage & run!
• Believe that all things happen for a reason & a bright future awaits you
• He is no longer the one for you & you are no longer the one for him... you are both different persons now, leading different lives
• Forgive yourself & forgive him for his mistakes
• Don't be someone's option when you should be a priority... find someone who treats you like a priority, don't settle for less
• Taking back your ex is like putting poop back in your butt

*responses from various people I have spoken to & the books I have read

What I have Learnt from Yoga

Using the theme of Lifehack (listing), here we go:

1- THINGS GET EASIER
The yoga poses appear impossible when I first started out, yet when I do them often enough the poses become easier and more manageable.

2- PERSEVERANCE
My knees felt like buckling... my shoulders are tied in knots... my hamstrings are stretched to the limit... yet when I wait it out and continue breathing, the countdown will reach ...58, 59, 60 (yay!!!!)

3- THERE IS A REASON BEHIND EVERYTHING (that happens)
Every pose in yoga carries a meaning and has health benefits e.g. to massage the organs; to align the spine; to balance the  body; for inner peace; for the health of the reproductive systems (etc). Just enjoy each one of it.

4- RELAX
The Savasana pose is the best to clear the mind and find my centre.

5- HAVE BREAKS
After a nasal breathing exercise or difficult poses, I get into the child's pose and wind down for about 10 seconds before starting other poses.

6- LISTEN TO YOUR BODY
Go for options if unable to do the full pose. Listen to your body and it will respond when it is ready.

7- DETACH
If the mind is not clear you will never be able to do the Tree pose or Warrior III with stability.

8- YOU WILL GET THERE ONE DAY
There will come a time when you (I) will be able to find inner peace, when your(my) energy points will align and the blue/ purple point will appear in between the mind's eyes. I just have to believe.