Ms Independent

There's a Ne-Yo song that went like this "She's got her own thing, that's why I love her.."

Basically it's about women who are independent & self-assured and how he loves a particular woman of that calibre.

Truth be told though, can men handle completely independent women?

Asian men have authority issues. No can do. They  only say they love independent women (Mr Ex used to say & praise me a lot for my independence).. BUT in the deepest part of his being he actually wanted a domesticated subservient compliant approval-seeking wife. Which I'm not, by any stretch of the imagination.

So I kinda have figured out something here. Be independent but don't appear too capable if you're married to an Asian man. Ask for help & let him feel that he has done something great, even if you can change the bulb or fix the car yourself. Well I still need a man to do both things, even if I've figured out how to change the bulb. Still don't know how to fix a car & won't likely learn anytime soon. I can do other things myself, except fix a house. Perhaps that's the other thing I'll need a man for.

On the other hand, what if the man gives me complete rein? Does he love me? Or do we just have a companionship rule: be there when I'm needed only, other than that I'm on my own. Is that a relationship? Just a relationship maybe, like the one you have with friends or casual acquaintances or someone you date just because you like her smile. Right?

Another thing I have figured out is.. I won't change for any man anymore. If he wants in, then he will have to take my package & excess baggage. Lock stock & barrel. I've become completely unattractive to men when we unveil the canvas. And I do not give a hoot. So be it. Anyone who can stand me deserves a gold medal. At least for trying I would give all of them silver medals: Mr Ex, N & S.