Thursday, February 29, 2024
One Day I will tell you about Today
Wednesday, February 28, 2024
The One that Got Away
A Litany of Angry Words may be better than silence
Hubby may find this blog, OR NOT.
It doesn't matter. I have gone silent on him.
Why call or message when he is with his love interest, right?
I never disturb. That is just not me.
So my litany appears in another platform. This one.
When I see him tomorrow I probably have not much to say.
Because I have exhausted my words here.
Oh my God the heartbreak is so REAL!!!
It's like I can ramble for YEARS if I could.
But I probably shouldn't.
It's unbecoming.
Sometimes Love is just ain't Enough
Second time around, I confirm this.
It is just not. There are other things that we need:
- Maturity
- Communication
- Respect
- Trust
- Loyalty
- Honesty
- Support
- Resilience
- A binding promise
The above is just the tip of the iceberg.
We probably need to throw in money in there somewhere. Or good financial planning.
And health, and be good to look at, and must contribute to the marriage/ pull our weight.
We can still be here in the next 24 hours and I'm sure we will add something to the list.
Effectively I have lost faith in love. The everlasting one is from parent to child, and to a lesser extent between siblings. With husband & wife, it's kind of 50-50/ touch & go.
Much respect to husbands who took care of their wives well long into their golden years and beyond. I haven't found that guy, and do not wish to find him at this point to be honest.
How we ended up at Square One
Well not exactly square one, because I have learnt new lessons.
New lessons ain't bad, because now I have knowledge. The only way now is up up up. Once I picked myself up from this puddle of mess.
I'm now back at my house. Thank goodness for a house, for a job, for an income to sustain me. I will survive. One step at a time. Let's make it. Because I can. I will. I have to.
Choices are important. The decision is no less difficult or heartbreaking no matter what station in life you are in. Gemma Chan in Crazy Rich Asians portrayed this well. Her character is loaded as hell, is highly successful in her business, buys whatever she wanted, and hid these trinkets from her husband's view to not hurt his feelings. What did he do? He found another woman who is accessible, more available and attentive to his needs. She (Astrid) loved him damn it. But that was not enough. He was seeking something that she could not provide. Will this vicious cycle ever end???
Time for some Britt Nicole's The Sun is Rising "You're gonna make it"
I suspect even if divorced it won't make such a big impact on our lives. We never announced the wedding because he was not ready (I don't think he ever will be). Many of our friends do not know & probably think I am just a hangers on since 2014. Whatever. Like I care. Before God we were wed 5 years ago & I know what I know.
He is not going to be too concerned either way. Married, unmarried. Whatever. Up to you, he would say. Yes it is up to me and I am filing for divorce. There is just no point pretending. Carilah calon baru. Dah jumpa pun agaknya.
I am not a bystander. I am the main event. Thank you very much!
Five Stages of Grief in 3 days
Nothing Breaks Like a Heart
No matter how many times this happens, it hurts.
I can understand how certain movies focus on erasing the hurt (e.g. Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind), like it is some type of pimple or wart that you can zap away. I am for embracing the pain & emerging stronger on the other side. And I am glad that I can do that privately, because I am not a celebrity. I can be by myself, dressed in any way that I like, without paparazzi taking my photos or analysing every little nuance of behaviour, comparing it to my past mannerisms which I may not even know or realise I had.
Thank goodness for privacy. And being a common man. It's liberating.
Some moments I want to cry; I do remember the good times too; I do love him and in some respects care for him; and love his kindness. However the big picture is I cannot live with a person who is not loyal. It's just too much to ask of him, because she stands with the POV of men can marry 4, they can look at women, it's normal for men to want other women (and all that stuff).
Funny that I have chosen to wake up now. I began to see my stupidity. He is not all that. He is just a person. So am I. We have been chosen to spend 5 years together and the time is now up.
Am I a bad person for wanting to separate? Whatever. Do I care???
For my mental health I am making this choice. I cannot be here & have him slash my heart.
Too many unanswered questions. Too many suspicions. I really do not need this sort of speculative uncertainty. He clams up when certain calls come up on his phone. Or he doesn't answer it.
So be it. Please follow your heart my dear husband. I will not be here anymore the next time you turn. And I wish you the best always. You are a wonderful person & thank you for the 5 years. Toodles!
Men and their Needs
Men, please do not be upset with my recent posts. Many men are decent I believe, and they're hard to find. I had settled for 2 men at different times of my life and we appear not to be good matches. I take responsibility. I chose them. I made them marry me. And they strayed because I didn't take care of them. Other women were able to do the job better. They are more caring, like to be together all the time, plans a good time with each other, manages the household well (or gives the impression that they do during the dating stage), prioritise the men, manja, sweet, and did I mention caring?
My personal conclusion is that I am just not wife material. I will no longer seek marriage after this, it is just not worth it anymore. I have my children, my job, and soon my phd, and I will have stuff to do instead of focusing on a husband.
Perhaps another advice to me is: don't rush into it. Seeing that there'll be no more romantic relationships in the future, I will not rush. I will not even move. Like the movie scene where the cafe patron just sits and watches the people, vehicles, and the world go by. I am that person now. A bystander. Don't mind me. I'm good where I am, thank you very much.
Another advice that I need for me: YOU SAW THAT BOTH OF THEM HAD A TYPE AND I AM NOT THEIR TYPE!!! Why on earth did I choose not to see/ acknowledge that? Ex-hubby likes tall chubby girls. Hubby likes petite damsel-in-distress types. HOW did we end up together? Did I choose to see what I want to see? Probably. I was blinded by love, or lust, or something. I really don't know. Or my selection of men is flawed. Or marriage is just not for me, because I don't know how to do it. No matter how much I adapted, I cannot fit the job. It's just something I cannot do well, or even decently. Like modeling, or acting, or cross-stitch, or crochet. Not my thing.
History Repeats Itself
He is a caring man, hubby is. A nice guy overall. Kind, does not scold. Patient, does not berate or raise his voice to me (or anyone, for that matter).
However the personality clashes have happened. We are not the same people and we don't really live by the same values. We coped, because we loved each other. I know I did, I accepted a lot of things which he did (e.g. turning the TV on because he wanted some sound when he sleeps vs me who sleeps in silence and darkness). We found some workarounds. Sometimes I will go and sleep in the spare room, in darkness and quiet. He has recently agreed that some days we can sleep in darkness and quiet, but asked me to wait until he dozes off before switching off the TV. Fair. That I did.
I probably should hear him out before taking drastic actions. That I will do when he returns tonight, or tomorrow? I don't know & at this point I don't really care. Men think that when they have other women their wives do not notice. I beg to differ. At some point we WILL notice. Mid-life crisis in particular, is VERY GLARING no matter how much you deny it. I must say kudos to the wives who have disciplined or forgiven or tolerated their husbands for these periods of their lives, to go on and celebrate their 30th 40th or 50th anniversary together. I am living through 2 men's 40s and 50s and not surviving the onslaught. I guess at some point they will stop, maybe at 60 or 70, or maybe even 80? Maybe there is a strategy when (young) women marry men in their 80s, so that they have their husband's full attention?
I am not young anymore, he is not either. I do try, in the circumstances, to make myself presentable and healthy at this age. He does too.
He has wondering eyes unfortunately, and sometimes this breaks my heart. I wish sometimes he could be more discreet with the beautiful women ogling especially when I am right by his side but he would say "men can look, such is our nature, it's wasted if I don't look (because she dressed up and everything)" and I have learnt to swallow my comments, look away and pretend nothing happened. No more. I will not be in that situation anymore.
As much as I love the person whom he is, his family, his kindness, I am 80% sure that I will be saying goodbye. It's an ROI thing. I am in a marriage expecting a minimum level of communication and respect. He was much better before, especially in the first year of marriage. In the 5th year, he just said "what to do, this is my wife of 5 years" and that's it. I know I am to blame too, because I am worse: I forgot the date completely. So there, I accept full blame. On the basis that he deserves so much better, I will make my way out. My time here is done.
The Weight of Expectations
Being a woman in Asian society may be a challenge at time, depending on the circles you associate yourself with.
I divorced at 40, remarried at 46 and my mother in law hinted at me about grandchildren. I replied to her (most likely wrongly) that I am already entering pre-menopause and may not be able to bear children. Hence when hubby returns from Jakarta I will propose that he marries a young girl to bear that grandchild for his mother. Well technically she never brought it up, but I guess what is in someone's heart and spoken aloud deserves some type of attention, and action, on my husband's part.
You can be highly educated and successful in your job AND you will still be expected to be a good cook and homemaker and take care of washing, cooking and cleaning. Most of us do anyways. Well, if I might say that myself. Not me, I don't mind washing the plates but I'm terrible with all the other stuff. Sometimes I cook, but not because I have to but I WANT TO. Huge difference there, brother! I plan to seek divorce and not do any of these things for him anymore. Let him find a maid or a wife or a maid he can sleep with for this purpose.
Being divorced in itself used to be a HUGE taboo. Would society prefer a woman be continuously battered by the man who was supposed to look after her? Is she expected to sit down and take it when her husband goes gallivanting with other women? Would it be worth sacrificing her happiness to maintain a united family front, complying to society's unrealistic standards (as she looks into the camera, dead in the eyes)? Why does society impose numerous expectations when no one has walked a mile in our shoes?
So ladies, please do not apologise. For being single/ married/ divorced, for choosing not to have children, for not knowing how to cook/ cook well, for not being a Martha Steward disciple, for pursuing our careers. We live by these choices and took responsibility. What's it to them anyways.
Tuesday, February 27, 2024
You know a good song is about to come out!
Artists and heartbreaks = this is a formula for some great songs
- Save your tears - The Weeknd
- Piece by piece (re-made) - Kelly Clarkson
- So what - Pink
- Back to December - Taylor Swift
- The Sun is Rising - Britt Nicole
- Love Song - Sara Bareilles
- Someone Like You - Adele
- Praying - Ke$ha
- Flowers - Miley Cyrus
- I will Survive - Gloria Gaynor
Who is Aiza?
She has had her stuff stored in the locked room for years.
When we were married the room remain locked.
She came by a few years ago to get her things... partially.
She had thought that I will not be at home, but I was, and she seemed uncomfortable to see me.
There are letters that reach the house often. Another woman's name.
When I asked who is that, he says that she is Aiza's mom.
He had been friends with Aiza's dad before, and when he left (divorced her mom), he felt responsible and took care of Aiza and her siblings.
Aiza calls him often too, to ask for silly things: regulatory information (doesn't she have colleagues, or other friends practicing accounting??? he is not even in the same field!!!); where to get sugho (www.shopee.com???); to send him stuff (engkau pernah duduk kat rumah ni bertahun, takkan takde alamat kot???) and to update on deaths and weddings in her family (WTF and who the hell are you??? his nieces and nephews update him too, but he didn't leave and take the call outside when they do!!!).
I think she may have been his ex-fiance. Good friends of mine has said to let it go. And I did. But apparently she did not. If she is a foster daughter she wouldn't have addressed him by name and spoken so manja on the phone "Awaaak, tahu ke kat mana jual sugho?" (please read this in a manja way).
It had been mental torture to look at the locked room. When she took some of her things I peeped and looked. Mainly stuff in boxes. I don't know what's in them. He had said books and clothes and some kitchen utensils. She had been married by then, with 2 kids, apparently to a wealthy guy: could you not have taken these back to your big house??? SOMETHING IS VERY FISHY HERE!
I have let her go, but there is that feeling when she calls or when he takes the calls outside.
When his friends or family call, it is always inside.
Sometimes he puts on speaker phone, or I get called to join into the family video calls.
Or even if he takes the call outside, he will tell me who that was.
With this person, he never does tell. He will say mind your own business, you don't need to know. So secretive, and precious.
If this happens, then I know FOR CERTAIN that it was her who called.
But this is a story for another day, maybe tomorrow π»
She, I would say, is his old love lost. He would like to have her, but couldn't. But he promised (or gave the impression) that he will always be there for her. And he was. He is. Still.
Clarity
Well I'm not fully clear-in-the-head yet but I can start to see what's next.
I will let this sadness wash over me. Bring it on.
Once I find my feet I will keep walking.
My journey continues...
The loves of my life will be there always, for me.
That, I am sure of.
Please read that last sentence in a less creepy way,
I may look creepy at times but I'm actually quite normal (my autism aside).
A lifetime is too long
Monday, February 26, 2024
It was not for me
Proposed Strategy for Hubby
I would suggest that he marries someone young, perhaps as young as 18? 16 is possible too, as that is the marriageble age for Malaysia but he must get her parent's consent.
He will have the joy & beauty and elasticity for about 10-12 years, because biologically women start losing their skin elasticity after 28. Some exercise & healthy food choices may help but essentially biology always win.
For another 10 years till she's about 38 she can look after herself well into her 40s. She can dress up for him, cook nice food for him, give him massages, praise all his achievements, be proud of all his Tan Sri/ Datuk Seri/ Datuk/ Datin/ Ambassador connections, and attend all the weddings or events looking fabulous, with the makeup he will buy for her.
By that time he will be about 70 and based on the average mortality age of Malaysian men, approaching death & hopefully no longer looking for a mate. By that time their children will be about 20 years of age & almost financially independent. When he dies and she's in her 40's she may still find another person who will look after her, and she will have that child to care for her, provided they raise him/ her well.
Back to the present day... if he finds this someone within the next few months I probably would help him to ask her hand in marriage. I will give him that much fodder to gloat to the world. If she asks if it's really okay with me I will say yes, we have agreed. I might even attend their wedding who knows. Or maybe not, because we didn't have a wedding reception, it would be bad judgement on my part to attend. Plus it would be uncomfortable for others at the event. Ignorance is always bliss.
After their wedding we will finalise our divorce and I will move to New Zealand with the children.
And in the end, everybody lives happily ever after.
Maybe I spoke too soon
I had told my dinner buddies during the reunion 2 days ago that "it is refreshing to be married to a mature person". Well technically it is still true. Being married to a mature guy is indeed much better than being married to a whiny immature person.
These are the things I have learnt from 2 marriages. I have not had boyfriends, so I do not have anything to contribute from this aspect. These summaries are based on 2 boyfriends who I eventually married:
- find a mate who you can converse with; no point marrying someone just for his looks or body, if he cannot contribute in a conversation, or give an opinion on things (big and small)
- find a mate who is a good friend, and hope that even if you end that marriage the friendship will subsist; a friend knows you inside out, your inner beauty and demons too (in some cases); if he marries you in spite of all that, he has embraced "you" in totality, not just the nice sparkly bits
- to me, a trustworthy person is my top expectation; it equates to being loyal and loving you and being there for you as you will for him; hence when infidelity happens I will be out of that door faster than 2 tail shakes; if it happens once it will happen again and again... and again; men (and women) don't change, especially after they are older than 40 (well some do, but it rarely happens, if ever)
- a kind person is a keeper, someone who treats you well; for me I do not expect a hopeless romantic with gifts and flowers every valentine's or anniversary, a kind person is enough: i.e. someone who doesn't abuse you physically or emotionally, someone who keeps your secrets, someone who you can share your joys and tears without judgement
That's about it really for me. I used to have some physical traits' expectations e.g. a tall person, or someone with beautiful eyes but I have let them go because they do not really mean much. It is the PERSON who matters.
Every individual goes into marriage with love, with hope, with some minimum expectations. Myself included. A good marriage builds you up and makes you both better individuals. If your mate no longer values you and eventually chuck you aside like an old shoe*, it is time to move on my girl!
*even if he doesn't plan to (chuck you aside), even if he says that I can love you both/ love you all, or I can be fair... I feel better leaving, because I DO NOT LIKE CROWDED PLACES!!!!!!!
Blame it on Youth?
For my first marriage, he was the same age as me. We dated in university and married right after graduation. I bore 5 of his children and after 15 years of marriage he found someone younger and better. We divorced on the year during what would have been our 16th anniversary.
For this second marriage I found someone a tad older, he was my senior in high school. He had never been married & had his own ways, which I adapt to. I appreciate his maturity, the way he looks at things. We have wonderful conversations about anything in the world. Now after 5 years of marriage, I may face an impending indiscretion.
Men always talk about it, about finding a second one. Especially after a certain age. 40 comes to mind, or 50 (or maybe even 60 or 70? I don't know, because I haven't reached the age yet). They consider themselves in their prime as their wives approach perimenopause or menopause (I am looking at relationships like mine, whose wives are about the same age; having met them at school or university). Somehow they go on a lookout (or gives the impression that they do) for younger girls who are all that. Their wives used to be young and hot too. And the husbands themselves are not young either.
Yet somehow men's market opened when they reach 40s or 50s as their bank account and wallet sizes expanded. And the men freely and openly state that their wives have let themselves go, tak jaga imej, selekeh and all that. Like THEY have been gorgeous all these while. And ironically we prepared their clothes and clean their underwears & socks, polished their shoes so they could look presentable. A friend of mine even buys clothes for her (ex) husband, good ones that match him and made him more fashionable BECAUSE he was her husband and she wanted him to look good. He got all dressed up and left. Is this the thanks we get?
I hate to generalise, and it is not fair to, because there are still many wonderful faithful men out there. My late father, and late grandfathers on both sides, were all loyal to a fault. I guess we get who we get. I get the unfaithful or experimental ones. Lucky me.
Well I can probably blame me for being too busy, or not taking care of my image, or for not taking care of him BUT I will not do that. Some men stray no matter WHAT you do. I happen to attract those types. Or I just don't have the skills to take care of a husband. Some people can & some people cannot. I am likely the latter.
Today I am reminded of Umi's words. Mum says the unlikeliest things but sometimes it makes total sense. Her strategy, for this modern era: marry someone gorgeous, have some gorgeous looking children and when he leaves you have beautiful children. Well that strategy is not bad but may not work if you marry royalty (the father may keep the children) or a really wealthy guy (you may be pressured to give up custody). Umi added: well if he stays faithful then you're in luck. If not at least you have beautiful children. Well it's too late for me to try that out because I am no longer of child bearing age.
So my next plan is to just finish the PhD and move on with my life. I can achieve things without him. He had been a wonderful support, I don't deny that. I wouldn't have reached this far had I still been in my ex-husband's clutches. However it is time to move on. I have things to do and stuff to achieve.
Sunday, February 25, 2024
Overthinking
Publication
Just want to park this here, for future publication plans:
https://authorspublish.com/50-specialized-manuscript-publishers-that-accept-direct-submissions/
My personal favourite publisher is Penguin. I got acquainted with them when I was a young girl, looking for cheap books to read. Their classics are affordable and provided me access to the wonderful world of reading.
From the Penguin website:
Penguin Books was originally founded in the UK in 1935 by Allen Lane, who envisioned a collection of quality, attractive books affordable enough to be βbought as easily and casually as a packet of cigarettes.β
They have stayed true to their words. Even in Malaysia, where books are expensive, they were able to sell each unit for RM10. Other international books are priced RM40 (barely) and mostly RM80 upwards.
One day I will publish with them, mark my words.
Why not tell the truth?
Sometimes I wish that men, especially after 40, will stop thinking with their dicks.
OF COURSE you will eventually get bored of your wife after being together for so long.
(You think she is not equally, if not more bored to death with you???)
OF COURSE there are younger fresher looking girls out there. At the office, at the gold courses, at the restaurants, literally where ever you go.
(You think you wife doesn't get tempted too??? You think your wife wasn't young once???)
OF COURSE your wife is stubborn & does not listen to you & is too busy taking care of the children or doing her work or is always sloppily dressed at home.
(Did you ever help her with housework, or childcare, or cooking, or cleaning, or her work??? Did you ever give a reason, or the chance to dress up and look good??? And the money she earns from work, is she not helping you too with household expenses???)
Well this last argument goes to the men, because Muslim men may marry up to 4 with a proviso; emphasis is mine
β Tafheem-ul-Quran - Abul Ala Maududi
So, what is the point of hiding and cheating and being a jerk?
Why not marry in Malaysia properly, if it is a right & you have strong and full belief that you will be fair to all your wives? Your wife will find out eventually. She has been honest and faithful, and took care of her dignity. They should not be lied to. Ever.
And to the other women, stop hurting your own kind.
There are many other men to choose from, please do some homework & try again.
We stand stronger together, not against each other.
Don't ever sell yourselves short, and don't grab other people's husbands either. The woman on the other side (and his children, if any) are REAL persons with feelings. She is/ They are not collateral damage. Damn the husbands who do not obey the oath they made to Allah during marriage. How dare you take on another bloody wife when you cannot take care of the loyal one you already have. Shame on you.
Bloodshed in Gaza
The war (and genocide) has been ongoing since 7 October 2023.
What started as a retaliation has taken an ugly turn, with no end in sight.
In Gaza lots of people have died, many buildings and infrastructures were completely destroyed.
When a community has been endlessly oppressed, one day they may just rise up.
Humble Beginnings
I have utmost respect for this Cambodian beauty queen who returned home to her village after winning her Mrs International Ambassador crown. She put the sash and crown on her mum and took a photo with her, smiling all the way. What struck me was how simple the house was, filled with clothes in disarray. She did not disguise and took photos of certain corners of the house. Some others would do a separate photo shoot in a hotel room or suite. Not her. She told us "this is who I am", and I find the photos very sweet.
She had made a simple speech/ interview, and I quote
βOnly one word, thank you and thank you for all the mistakes, this is a dream that I used to dream, now I see, but Iβm sorry, I still do not hope.
For those who have never imagined, it feels different.β
A humble person, very grounded.
And I suspect she may get flak from the "upper class" for embracing her roots.
To hell with them. She is as real as anybody can be.
My kind of gal. 5-star through and through!
Irretrievably Broken Down Relationship and not Allowed to Leave
"He married in 1963 but said his relationship had broken down in 1984."
"βThe institution of marriage is still considered to be a pious, spiritual, and invaluable emotional life-net between the husband and the wife in Indian society,β said the courtβs judgement."
21 years is an awful long time to be trapped inside a loveless marriage.
They were not allowed to leave the marriage, because this is a holy institution (says the judge).
Based on the facts both parties remained loyal to the other, perhaps (and I speculate) because society demands it & divorce is simply taboo and unheard of.
I wonder if the judges had their hands tied too? Precedents, and traditions. Those together makes a potent combination. And the poor souls have to contend with matrimony till the end. What a way to live.
Why not let them divorce and be at peace with it? They would be better off I believe, and move on to bigger and wonderfuler things. Their children deserves to have happy parents, and the parents deserved having separate lives unshackled by the heavy chains of 'tradition' and 'social expectations'.
If divorce had been taboo here in Malaysia, we may be in a lot of trouble.
Many of us got out because the law protected us and allowed divorce. Why stay married when there is abuse, physical and emotional? Why stay in a marriage when there is neglect? Why stay and suffer in pain and silence? Why be in an imbalanced relationship where we women do not get protection and expected do everything for the man? The look of the subservient woman who serves her man to death is no longer cool. Many of us are as (if not more) educated than our man. Many earn and work as hard as (if not more than) men. Can we not expect this minimum protection: against abuse, infidelity, unfair treatment and/ or careless caretaking?
Now back to the guy in India. He appeared to be a good man. Does his duties. Takes care of his wife and children. However the fire had died.
If I were the judge I would probably award them an all paid re-honeymoon trip, and some sessions with the marriage counselor to spice things up. A lifetime is too long to be unhappy.
Innovation
Nostalgia
Tuesday, February 20, 2024
Income Generation
What's next?
Currently facing a career crossroad.
What do I do next?
Not teaching for long, based on the student quality that we're getting. And chatgpt. I don't blame chatgpt. Students use it, because it's there. I blame the students for not using their brains.
How do I teach when I end up angry like that?
This teaching job, although satisfying at certain moments, do not earn much & do not learn much.
I learnt lots about students and human behaviour, but I have lost a lot of learning opportunity in the industry. In practice, I would learn more in a year than years in education. Which is normal & the trend anyways, otherwise where would the saying "Those who don't do, teach" come from?
Saw on the websites of Harvard & MIT that they're welcoming post-doc candidate. Maybe I should go for that. Learn more, why not. I do love learning anyways. Hiring me probably ticks a couple of the DEI checkboxes: Asian; Age; Female; Developing Country origin; Mother. Why not? I probably could do some convincing. They may just let me in π
Change is needed. And I feel that it needs to happen now, or soon. Because I am dying inside.
Is this a Trap?
Thursday, February 01, 2024
Thai's Moral Principle Project
This video originated from Thailand, captioned as part of their Moral Principle project.
Created 9 years ago, it popped up again close to the Thai elections & was circulated on social media.
Thai adverts are known to be funny/ witty and this one is no exception.
It emphasised the importance of responsible leaders.
Made me think about my own leaders at the office and of the country.
People become leaders for different reasons, and there are all sorts of leaders.
For me, I need my leaders to be responsible and ethical, and in it for the right reasons.
Otherwise, we may just be headed for ruins.
Zaman ini Zaman Fitnah (This is the Age of Slander)
A man sent a viral message that he had to pay more than RM10 when he asked for extra packets of sauce in McDonalds. He shared a screenshot of the receipt in his posting, and this piece of news blew up amongst Malaysian netizens keyboard warriors.
McDonalds responded by sharing a recording of their CCTV of the man acting badly by scolding their staff and INSISTING that they issue and print a receipt for the sauce packets. Indeed this social media era is full of slander. My wish is for more good people of social media, to correct this imbalance. To put it mildly, we have too many idiots online.
So before you believe anything on the Internet, please do your due diligence.
You never know what antics some people get into, especially in this social media error.
Too much free time + (shady) viral messages & videos + Malaysian keyboard warriors = IDIOCY
Disinterest
Apparently in nature, certain species of female frogs fake death to avoid sexual advances.
This is interesting... because sex, although primal and necessary in some cases, can be a distraction in other cases. I wonder what better things these frogs had to do π
You cannot be Everything to Everybody
This a personal and heartfelt message to mothers | career ladies | students and girls everywhere.
Always love yourself. Keep yourself in high regard because nobody else will.
Don't spread yourself out too thin. Value what you do.
Do your best, but don't beat yourself up too much if things do not work out. Despite our best efforts, some things are just not meant to be. Learn from it and move on. Go on to do better and bigger things.
Why? Why NOT!
Take care of your health. It is more valuable than any treasures of the earth.
Never let any man make you feel like a lesser person. We are enough.